Growth is often described as becoming more —more confident, more certain, more capable. But sometimes, growth looks like letting go. Letting go of roles you once relied on. Letting go of identities that helped you survive. Letting go of versions of yourself that were necessary at one point, but no longer fit. This can feel unsettling — especially when those earlier versions carried you through difficult seasons. The selves we don’t thank enough Many people carry a sense of

January has a way of making people feel late. Late to start. Late to change. Late to become who they think they should be by now. There’s a quiet pressure in the air — subtle, but persistent — that suggests you should already be moving faster, clearer, more decisively than you feel able to. But what if nothing has gone wrong? What if you’re not behind at all — you’re transitioning? Transition is not stagnation Transition is an in-between space. It’s the psychological pause

January often arrives with a quiet pressure. New goals. New habits. New versions of ourselves to construct before we’ve even caught our breath after the year that was. For many people, the new year doesn’t feel like a clean beginning — it feels more like continued carrying. Fatigue still hums in the body. Unanswered questions remain. Emotions haven’t magically settled just because the calendar turned. And that’s okay. You don’t need to erase who you were to become who you

As the year draws to a close, many people feel the quiet (or loudness) pressure to evaluate, resolve, and reinvent. To tally achievements. To measure progress. To promise change. But more often than not, the end of a year feels less like triumph… and more like tiredness. It can carry relief alongside grief, gratitude alongside exhaustion — and many things that remain unfinished or unnamed. All of that belongs. You are not required to wrap your year into a neat bow. You do

The world can feel loud this time of year. Lists grow longer.Conversations arrive unfinished.Work carries questions with no simple answers.And beneath the sparkle of the festive season, many bodies hold quiet tension — bracing, rushing, waiting for a moment to exhale. This is your permission to pause. You don’t need a retreat, silence, or an empty room to begin.You only need sixty gentle seconds. A Small Grounding Practice Wherever you are right now — sitting at your desk,

December often arrives with noise — not just in sound, but in expectation. Plans, performances of joy, social pressure, political tension, and the quiet demand to “keep up” all layer into a season that can leave little room to simply be . As I reflect this year, I find myself drawn toward a quality our nervous systems seem desperately in need of: Moments of quiet. Not retreating into isolation — but gentle pauses that allow things to settle. In our hyper-connected world, sil

December has a way of amplifying contrasts. On one side, the world feels loud — politically polarised, socially divided, full of loud opinions and urgent demands to “take a side,” “be right,” or hold certainty. On the other, the festive season carries its own pressures: to be joyful, grateful, connected, and coping — even when many of us are feeling tired, stretched, lonely, or quietly overwhelmed. In both spaces, I find myself returning to the same word: Humility. Not the

In October, while on a family holiday, I found myself unexpectedly caught abroad during Hurricane Melissa in Jamaica. What began as a restful break quickly shifted into something very different — strong winds, flooding, power outages, structural damage, rationed food and water, and the sudden loss of internet connection. Temporary accommodation created inside the hotel following Hurricane Melissa. We were safe — and I want to be clear about that. We were staying in a well-

Relational Psychotherapy in Birmingham & Online Walking into therapy — or opening the screen to someone new — is a vulnerable act. You are letting yourself be seen before you even speak. You are entering a room where your inner world will no longer be carried alone. So if you’re wondering what it might feel like to be here with me (a counselling psychologist) — let me show you. This is a therapeutic space for those searching for clarity, direction, or relief from the weight

Relational Psychotherapy in Birmingham & Online It’s been a while since I’ve written anything here. Part of that pause was intentional, and part of it was simply life — shifting, stretching, reshaping me in ways I didn’t fully understand until recently. But in the quiet, something important happened: I grew. I softened. I gained clarity about the kind of therapist I am becoming. Not just a clinician. But a reflective presence. A space of stillness. Someone who helps peo

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